it's looking right now that i might lose my grandpa. he was sick over the weekend with a cough, so my mom took him to the doctor today. the doctor admitted him to the local hospital's icu. he has a congested heart, double pneumonia, and has lost a lot of weight (which for those of you that don't know my grandpa, he's 5'11" and weighs 120lbs soaking wet)
alma couldn't stabilize them (honestly, it's not that surprising, alma hospital is pretty shitty), but instead of being taken to waycross (the next biggest city), he was taken to jacksonville. jacksonville is 2 hours away and in another state. i know it has to be bad if he wasn't taken to valdosta or savannah. even people that have been in horrible accidents are taken to savannah.
i don't know what i'm going to do. he grandpa has been like my dad my entire life. whenever we had to make father's day projects at school i made them for my grandpa, when i was in highschool i'd stay up until he got up for work at 3am and have coffee with him, and whenever i visit i help him play zelda and we watch the history/discovery channel together. he's always been the one i screen my boyfriends through because i really trust his judgement.
i don't want him to die first... why can't my grandma die first? she's such a terrible person and my grandpa is so wonderful. i don't know what to do... i can't leave school to go be with him, and that's what i really want. i don't want to not be there if he does die. holy shit this sucks. i can't stop crying.
that's awful, I'll say a mi sheberach for him on Shabbat this week. Maybe you can at least take a few days to go and see him so that way at least you'll get a chance to say goodbyes and i love yous just in case science doesn't triumph. My maternal grandparents are both in their mid 80s now and it sucks knowing that the time I'm going to have to deal with a funeral gets closer every year.
i'm jewish retarded and like to learn, what is a mi sheberach?
i'm really thinking about going if my mom calls and says that he's not getting better. right now the word is that he's looking up. i can only hope that continues.
the mi sheberach is a prayer for people who are ill either in body or spirit. the chosen prayer I've noticed varies from temple to temple, but I've always liked the one that we did at my schul in Connecticut. the words are:
mi sheberach imuteinu
m'kor habaracha l'avoteinu
may the source of strength who blessed the ones before us
help us find the courage to make our lives a blessing
and let us say amein
mi sheberach avoteinu
m'kor habaracha l'imuteinu
bless those in need of healing with refua schleima
the renewal of body
the renewal of spirit
and let us say amein
it's of course sung and the melody is also really pretty.
i honestly don't think that i would. that woman is pure fucking evil and brings nothing good to the world at all. she's manipulative, insane, abusive, and makes everyone she comes into contact with miserable. this same thing nearabout happened last year to her (minus the pneumonia) and when i called her to see what was up with grandpa she went on some tirade about how she didn't get a special lung doctor. she's also told my grandpa while he was in the hospital that the only reason she didn't want him to die is because their children prefer him and would just throw her in a home.
all women are manipulative and insane =)
That being said-
Many people in my family abhorred my grandmother. She was very outspoken, somewhat mean and at times self-centered, but the truth is we all are. I was very close to my grandmother, but I would guess that there were several family members that felt the way you did about her.
She's still your family, even if you don't like the way she acts- she probably doesn't like the way you act either.
i don't buy into the institution that you have to love your family. love is born out of love and respect, not genetic similarity. and you know, maybe i would feel different if she once respected me. but she never has.
my life as a child was filled with her telling me i was a loser and worthless and fat and ugly and that i'd never get out of our dead end town. my teenage years were spent dodging things that she threw at me because i was home sick from school and listening to her tell me that everything i owned was shit, and being kicked out of the house. and my adult life has been spent watching her treat my grandfather like shit now that he's retired, and listening to her tell me that i'll never get a job doing what i want to do, and having her being all nicey-nice until i get down there to visit and then she rips every life decision i've ever made apart.
she's not just a crotchty old lady, she's seriously fucking insane and evil. who bursts into a sick person's room and throws jewlery boxes at them when they can't even get out of bed to dodge it? she'll never be part of the family that i'm building for myself.
i understand how you feel on that note. i feel the same way about my sperm doner. but thankfully he is in a completely different state than i am.
your grandmother really does have some serious issues. perhaps it was the way she was treated growing up and doesn't know how she is SUPPOSEd to behave. i dunno. but yea, a little insane as well for trying to gripe at me about my choices in dating...
i'm sorry to hear about your grandpa, though. he is a really nice guy. but if he was strong enough to put up with your grandmother's shit like he has, he'll be strong enough for this....
it may very well be how she was treated growing up. she was born in an insane asylum and given to her grandparents until when she was 5 and her mother was married and pregant again and wanted an instant family. she was ignored and taken advantage of from there on out because her mother didn't want her, she just wanted someone around to look after her younger sisters.
if he dies i really have no idea wtf i'm gonna do. :\